What is dehydrating your love?
Although all of us didn’t plan our existence, we need to stay. Many of you can’t figure out where am heading. STOP A MINUTE. Have you ever asked yourself, why was I born out of frustration? Not because you are looking for purpose but because you are tired. Yes, most of my days during my late twenties and early thirties I didn’t have love for myself due to so many reasons to We shall first look at those factors that drain our love for ourselves and then our love for others.
Parents who have not taken it up to themselves to heal from past trauma will always pass it on to their children who are weak in spirit. By this I mean, that some children fall victim to their parents’ abuse and those who are not strong enough don’t ever find healing, unlike the wise ones who stand up against this cycle and say this has to come to an end. Many of us don’t come from stable homes, especially on the emotional side of view and then the physical. This has affected many people. Symptoms like insecurities grow slowly but incrementally and it has deprived loving ourselves of millions and millions of people. Many of us have embarked on unlearning our insecurities and it’s still a journey.
Bad company corrupts good morals(wrong friends). I have often failed to understand why people would want a gang of friends to just hang out yet leading them to the wrong path. outside a friend in need is a friend in deed many people focus on just wanting someone there or to belong to a certain kind of group just because they look cool. They don’t go further to ask them if they are happy. These people have led many astray and what I found out is that later in life you find them when they straightened their act in life and you who were misled are still in the dump star they led you into.
1 Corinthians 15:33, Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”For the years I have lived I have seen this mainly in teenagers and at least most of us have seen it either in our friendships over the years or in the friendships of the people in the environment we shared before. Proverbs 22:24-25 goes ahead to give advice, do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared. However psalms 1:1-2. Says blessed is none who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockery, but whose delight is in the law of the lord and who meditates on his law day and night.
1 Corinthians 15:33, Do not be misled: “Bad company corrupts good character.”For the years I have lived I have seen this mainly in teenagers and at least most of us have seen it either in our friendships over the years or in the friendships of the people in the environment we shared before. Proverbs 22:24-25 goes ahead to give advice, do not make friends with a hot-tempered person, do not associate with one easily angered, or you may learn their ways and get yourself ensnared. However psalms 1:1-2. Says blessed is none who does not walk in step with the wicked or stand in the way that sinners take or sit in the company of mockery, but whose delight is in the law of the lord and who meditates on his law day and night.
1corinthians 3:3 states one of the emotions that deprive us of the opportunity to work or communion with the holy spirit. Which is jealousy. This hinders us from receiving the greater things that God has for us. James 3:14-16, goes ahead to ask, who is wise and understanding among you? Let them show it by their good life and deeds done in humility that comes from wisdom. But if you harbor bitter envy and selfish ambition, do not boast about it or deny the truth. Such wisdom does not come down from heaven but is earthly, unspiritual, and demonic. Where you have envy and selfish ambition, you find disorder and every evil practice there. Exodus 20:17, among the 10 commandments says you shall not covet your neighbor’s wife or his male or female servant, his ox or donkey, or anything that belongs to your neighbor. Scriptures go further in Exodus 23:4 &5 if you come across your enemy’s ox or donkey wandering off, be sure to return it. If you see the donkey of someone who hates you fallen under its load, do not leave it there; be sure you help them with it. Proverbs 10:12 says hatred stirs up conflict but love covers over all wrongs. 1 John 4:19-20, encourages us by saying”We love because he first loved us. Whoever claims to God yet hates a brother or sister is a lair. For whoever doesn’t love a brother or sister, whom they have seen, cannot love God, whom they have not seen. ” Titus 3:3 says, at one time we too were foolish, disobedient, deceived, and enslaved by all kinds of passion and pleasures. We lived in malice and envy, being hated and hating one another. But when the kindness and love of God our Savior appeared, he saved us, not because of the righteous things we had done, but because of his mercy. He saved us through the washing of rebirth. whenever we do not practice better emotions it deprives us of self-love.
Complaining. Not being content is very sickening in the soul. If you cannot live within your means until you get to that place where you can buy what you want and resort to using different means to access anything unfordable to you. You are denying yourself self-love. Debtors will come looking for you and will give you sleepless nights. Complaining can also breed comparison which is not good for your mind whether in the short run or long run. Moreover, we have heard misery loves company. But this company where you only gather to talk about something not solve it, is very dangerous. In this place, you will grow to love being hurt and when you start loving hurt and expecting it, it will make you negative in your mind and it will depress you.
Idols.
As Christians, we know these but let me help those who only know them as statues. These can be things that you cannot live out and yet they are deteriorating your wellbeing. Obsessing over something or someone whom you can live without and don’t need is an idol. Who has ever wanted something or career, success to that extent that you could not breathe or can not wait? Am trying to exaggerate so that we understand each other. This can drain you into depression mode.
Sin.
This is one of the great things that keep us away from God. They say every good thing comes from God. God is the source and other things are resources. Trying to engage in actions or mindsets that keep God away, is not the best way to love yourself. The wisest way to love you is to love God and his principles.
Blaming others is also one of the things that deprives us of self-love. Adam blames Eve. I know sometimes we do not lead ourselves into evil, but healing and repentance come faster if we take our eyes off them and we turn from evil and take responsibility. Change your mind set to turn away from what’s leading you astray this is moving towards self-love. Many great preachers God has revealed to them that in our journey of growing in Christ(that is the meat season). God reveals what is inside and if you don’t acknowledge that is not right to keep living in me please God the Holy Spirit take it out of me, you will not heal and thus grow.
However there is always a way out of this trauma, wrong friends, idols, complaining, jealousy, envy, and sin among others. Although many of us ignore the fact that we need God, we do. Find a relationship with God and the holy spirit will help you find love from the inside out.
Accepting correction can also determine the level of self-love. By this I mean, when you accept corrections in whichever form, you will grow and if you get angry because you hate people checking you, you will lag only to watch people enjoying their success. Hebrews 6-12. Proverbs 15:32, those who disregard discipline despite themselves, but the one who heeds correction gains understanding. Proverbs 12:1 says whoever loves discipline loves knowledge, but whoever hates correction is stupid.
