Before you to become parents we shall go back from the beginning where God almighty saw that man alone with all these animals, trees, plants and the rest of the things he had created, he discovered that all this could not make man light up, until he thought to himself, it’s not good for a man to be alone , then he waited for him to fall asleep , then got one rib and fashioned a woman. And then man lit up. This wasn’t long until the helper eve was deceived by the devil which led both of them to sin because Adam couldn’t leave eve hanging alone in sin. Adam chose Eve instead of obeying God his creater. Am just saying, that woman might be beautiful, accomplished or anything that can give her status, if you disobey God as the head of the family you will fall with her. Because without a relationship with God, you are managing life rather than living it in full the way Jesus Christ promised. I termed this parent to parents because I want us to view this union of man and woman as a family setting that God has entrusted to thrive in the purpose it was created for in the start where you to help each other grow in Christ and help others entrusted to you grow too. There are old vows that say in good times or bad times. Many of us who are already in this journey of marriage,we thought it Is a walk in the park rather ,but it requires a principle first in Ephesians 5:21-33.
Ephesians 5:21-33
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Instructions for Christian Households
21 Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ.
22 Wives, submit yourselves to your own husbands as you do to the Lord. 23 For the husband is the head of the wife as Christ is the head of the church, his body, of which he is the Savior. 24 Now as the church submits to Christ, so also wives should submit to their husbands in everything.
25 Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her 26 to make her holy, cleansing[a] her by the washing with water through the word, 27 and to present her to himself as a radiant church, without stain or wrinkle or any other blemish, but holy and blameless. 28 In this same way, husbands ought to love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself. 29 After all, no one ever hated their own body, but they feed and care for their body, just as Christ does the church— 30 for we are members of his body. 31 “For this reason a man will leave his father and mother and be united to his wife, and the two will become one flesh.”[b] 32 This is a profound mystery—but I am talking about Christ and the church. 33 However, each one of you also must love his wife as he loves himself, and the wife must respect her husband.
This helps both parties to tress their steps so that they do not over step their boundaries. The submission can only be contested if the husband is leading the wife to sin. The above principle if honored will fulfil the Ecclesiastes 4:9-12.
Ecclesiastes 4:9-16
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9 Two are better than one,
because they have a good return for their labor:
10 If either of them falls down,
one can help the other up.
But pity anyone who falls
and has no one to help them up.
11 Also, if two lie down together, they will keep warm.
But how can one keep warm alone?
12 Though one may be overpowered,
two can defend themselves.
A cord of three strands is not quickly broken.
Have you ever read proverbs 31?
Sayings of King Lemuel
31 The sayings of King Lemuel—an inspired utterance his mother taught him.
2 Listen, my son! Listen, son of my womb!
Listen, my son, the answer to my prayers!
3 Do not spend your strength[a] on women,
your vigor on those who ruin kings.
4 It is not for kings, Lemuel—
it is not for kings to drink wine,
not for rulers to crave beer,
5 lest they drink and forget what has been decreed,
and deprive all the oppressed of their rights.
6 Let beer be for those who are perishing,
wine for those who are in anguish!
7 Let them drink and forget their poverty
and remember their misery no more.
8 Speak up for those who cannot speak for themselves,
for the rights of all who are destitute.
9 Speak up and judge fairly;
defend the rights of the poor and needy.
Epilogue: The Wife of Noble Character
10 [b]A wife of noble character who can find?
She is worth far more than rubies.
11 Her husband has full confidence in her
and lacks nothing of value.
12 She brings him good, not harm,
all the days of her life.
13 She selects wool and flax
and works with eager hands.
14 She is like the merchant ships,
bringing her food from afar.
15 She gets up while it is still night;
she provides food for her family
and portions for her female servants.
16 She considers a field and buys it;
out of her earnings she plants a vineyard.
17 She sets about her work vigorously;
her arms are strong for her tasks.
18 She sees that her trading is profitable,
and her lamp does not go out at night.
19 In her hand she holds the distaff
and grasps the spindle with her fingers.
20 She opens her arms to the poor
and extends her hands to the needy.
21 When it snows, she has no fear for her household;
for all of them are clothed in scarlet.
22 She makes coverings for her bed;
she is clothed in fine linen and purple.
23 Her husband is respected at the city gate,
where he takes his seat among the elders of the land.
24 She makes linen garments and sells them,
and supplies the merchants with sashes.
25 She is clothed with strength and dignity;
she can laugh at the days to come.
26 She speaks with wisdom,
and faithful instruction is on her tongue.
27 She watches over the affairs of her household
and does not eat the bread of idleness.
28 Her children arise and call her blessed;
her husband also, and he praises her:
29 “Many women do noble things,
but you surpass them all.”
30 Charm is deceptive, and beauty is fleeting;
but a woman who fears the Lord is to be praised.
31 Honor her for all that her hands have done,
and let her works bring her praise at the city gate.
What comes to your head? This was why Solomon said in proverbs18:22, that he who finds a wife finds a good thing. Furthermore, there some scriptures that keep us on the right track in this journey. Like 1 Peter 3:7,
1 Peter 3:7
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7 Husbands, in the same way be considerate as you live with your wives, and treat them with respect as the weaker partner and as heirs with you of the gracious gift of life, so that nothing will hinder your prayers.
Proverbs 3:3-8
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3 Let love and faithfulness never leave you;
bind them around your neck,
write them on the tablet of your heart.
4 Then you will win favor and a good name
in the sight of God and man.
5 Trust in the Lord with all your heart
and lean not on your own understanding;
6 in all your ways submit to him,
and he will make your paths straight.[a]
7 Do not be wise in your own eyes;
fear the Lord and shun evil.
8 This will bring health to your body
and nourishment to your bones.
Proverbs 10:11-12
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11 The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life,
but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.
12 Hatred stirs up conflict,
but love covers over all wrongs.
1 Corinthians 13:13,
1 Corinthians 13:13
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13 And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.
Proverbs 10:11-12
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11 The mouth of the righteous is a fountain of life,
but the mouth of the wicked conceals violence.
12 Hatred stirs up conflict,
but love covers over all wrongs.
Luke6:31
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31 Do to others as you would have them do to you.
Besides grievances, there are things that need to be done as parents in discussion on how to carry out some duties because your back grounds most cases may differ for example, how you discipline your children. The other thing that we shouldn’t forget that charity begins at home. If you don’t treat people at home well but with the intention of hurting them this will not impact them well because they will treat people, they met outside like the way you treat them. However good you are out there, God will not be pleased and won’t answer your prayers. This is for the head of the home.
